lessons for boys

i saw this on face book and i really like it.

20 things a mom should tell her son....

 1.  play a sport... it will teach you to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble.
 2.  you will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don't take something away from her that you can't give back.
 3.  use careful aim when you pee.  someone has to clean that up, you know.
 4.  save money when you're young because you're going to need it someday.
 5.  let me introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom.  now please go use them.
 6.  pray and be a spiritual leader.
 7.  don't ever be a bully and don't ever start a fight, but, if someone clocks you, please defend yourself.
 8.  your knowledge and education are things no one can take away from you.
 9.  treat women kindly. forever is a long time to live alone.  it's even longer with someone who hates your guts.
10.  take pride in your appearance.
11.  be strong and tender at the same time.
12.  women can do everything you can do.  this includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3am.
13.  'yes, ma'am' and ' yes, sir' still go a long way.
14.  they are called private parts for a reason.  they are private.  do not scratch them in public.
15.  peer pressure is a scary thing.  be a good leader and others will follow.
16.  bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.
17.  it is better to be kind than to be right.
18.  a sense of humor goes a long way in the healing process.
19.  choose your spouse wisely.  my daughter in law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.
20.  remember to call your mother because i might be missing you.

(personal note....#20 is so very important)

my boys are grown now.
i'm tickled with the men they are becoming.
handsome, kind, hardworking, funny and family oriented.
as i look back, i realize, in some ways, it's harder to mother boys because you have never been one.
you have no experience to go on.
you can love them with all you've got, show them a woman's perspective, and pray A LOT.
with any luck, it works out.

and, i must add......especially #20
my 2 wonderful boys.